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That Thing We Dont Talk About Facing Death
Have you ever heard the phrase, "The 200 pound gorilla in the room?" It's a phrase that refers to a topic that nobody talks about, but it so dominates everybody's thoughts. Everyone knows the gorilla is there, but nobody gets anxious because, after all, you don’t want to upset the gorilla.
There is a 200 pound gorilla in the room in any time being spent with a senior citizen. It is a topic that is blatantly pertinent to anyone in their golden years but it is a topic that nobody talks about either because it’s too upsetting or nobody knows how to talk about it. But it is a topic that weighs on the mind of your senior citizen mom and dad virtually every day. The 200 pound gorilla in the room is death and the end of life issues that are ahead for every senior citizen at some point or another.
As the caregiver for your elderly mom or dad, you should be aware how heavily the topic we don't talk about weighs on the minds of your parents. If you have lost one parent, the surviving spouse is even more aware of the issue. But there are good reasons to remove the stigma from talking about end of life issues with your elderly parent. That is because there are numerous end of life issues about which you must reach some decisions before that time actually comes along including
1) The condition of the Will.
2) Do not Resuscitate and other advance directive document decisions to give to end of life medical personnel.
3) A review of insurance and the location of other financial documents that you, the executor of the Will or the person who has power of attorney will resolve.
4) Any desires the senior citizen might have about funeral arrangements.
In order to be able to discuss the end of life and issues related to death, you will have to be at a point emotionally that you can deal with the topic yourself. Many of us bury our thoughts of death in a mental trick we play that seems like we think we will not have to go through this part of life. We do that perhaps because we prefer to think about life or because we are uncomfortable about discussion of the afterlife and religious ideas.
So to get ready to be able to be a good caregiver and counselor to your aging mom or dad, you should sit down and get some peace and resolution about the topic yourself. If that means confronting your religious anxieties, well, that is part of adulthood and those who are depending on you including your aging parents and your children may be looking to you for some answers in that area. It will take some courage but face those issues so you can be ready to help your parents face them, too.
If you have a religious faith and your parents share that outlook, this is the time to review the afterlife assurances that come from your religious upbringing. By spending time with your mom or dad reviewing the doctrines of heaven and the comfort those religious texts brings, you can give them renewed hope and peace about the coming of death because they will know that passing from this life is not the end.
Don't let the 200 pound gorilla stay in the room. Confront the issue of death with your aging parent or parents and do so with compassion and kindness. If you do, you will help your parent reach a place of peace and acceptance about what is going to happen that will benefit them for the whole of their golden years remaining on this earth.
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